Many women have the
frustrating experience of
going out with a guy on one
or a few dates, thinking that
things go very well between
the two of them, and then
having that guy suddenly
stop calling, disappear and
lose all interest in them. It is
probably not a big deal when
it happens with one or two
guys, but if this has
been your experience with
men over and over for several
years or longer, it is hard to
not take this personally and
not start believing that there
is something about you that
turns men off and makes
those men lose interest in
you. Obviously, every dating
situation and every
interaction between you and
a particular guy is unique
and different. Therefore, the
reasons behind the guy
losing interest in you are just
as different. Having said
that, there are several
common reasons that a man
may lose interest in you,
besides the typical “no
chemistry” situation, and the
other very common situation,
where the guy is simply not
interested in dating one
woman as he is driven toward
sexual novelty and variety
regardless of who he meets
today. The following
are top nine reasons why
guys lose interest in a woman
they started seeing, and what
you can do to eliminate those
possible causes and thus
increase your ability
of keeping the guy’s interest
and desire to be with you:
1. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are Overweight
It is a cruel but also a true
fact that if a woman is not
physically attractive enough,
there will still be guys who
will be willing to go out with
her but, that won’t usually
last. While there is only so
much we can do to improve
our looks and be more
attractive physically, there is
one major step that a woman
can take to become more
attractive, and that’s losing
weight, if she is overweight.
The very interesting fact
that’s rarely mentioned about
women is this: if you are not
overweight – if your body is
reasonably
lean and toned, chances are
that unless there is some
serious disfigurement in your
face or body, you are
probably attractive
enough and sexually
desirable to most guys. If you
are overweight, losing weight
and building a more
attractive body is paramount
to your ability to attract more
men – from catching their
eye when you are walking
down the street, to wanting
them to be with and touch
you. This is not to mention
all the other benefits that
losing excess weight will
have on your life – better
health, more energy, higher
self confidence, better
posture, and numerous other
benefits that go well beyond
the scope of this article.
2. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Talk Too Much
No matter how smart a
person is, if he dominates a
conversation, he will boring
and even tiring to the other
person. I and my friends met
some incredibly beautiful
women over the course of our
dating lives, but we simply
couldn’t stand being around
some of them because
they wouldn’t stop talking.
While it’s obvious when
someone else talks a lot, it’s
not nearly as noticeable when
you evaluate your own
conversational habits. One of
my favorite ways to keep
yourself in check and making
sure that you don’t talk too
much is making sure that you
don’t talk for longer than 30
seconds in a row without
letting the other person
respond. I also encourage you
to ask your friends whether
they think you talk too much
or interrupt their conversation
or otherwise dominate your
interaction. Insist that they
be honest and not tell you
what you want to hear, but
instead – tell you how it is.
3. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
are Too Uptight
This girl told me once on the
phone that she couldn’t meet
me because her car broke
down, to which I replied:
“Well, that’s what happens
when you let women drive.”
Instead of laughing at the
comment as most women
would, she got angry, thought
I was serious, hung up on me
and later demanded an
apology. Few things are
bigger turn-offs and are more
unattractive than a woman
who is uptight, who can’t
take a joke and who says
“Ahh, how dare you!” instead
of laughing at an
inappropriate comment or a
sexual innuendo and dishing
one of her own. Dark humor,
sarcasm and sexual
comments are a spice life and
love life for every interesting,
ambitious guys. If you are
interesting in dating and
having a relationship with
one, you should consider
stopping to take yourself too
seriously, open your mind
and enjoy dark humor, rather
than being intimidated by it
or judge it.
4. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are Boring
If you don’t have much to
say, and if you don’t have too
many interesting thoughts
and observations to share,
and you don’t know how to
respond to what the guy you
are seeing says, thinks and
believes in, you are not going
to keep a great guy’s interest
for very long. Boring dates
feel like a torture, and no one
is interested in going into one
or sticking around when they
realize that they have to push
the conversation to simply fill
the time. Surely there is no
shortcut to becoming a more
interesting person, but there
is a great, long-term solution
– you started learning more
things about yourself, about
your environment and the
world. TV, magazines, books,
meeting new people, watching
different shows, and engaging
in social events will give you
much more material to think
about and form your views
on. Surely, there is a lot of
junk out there on TV and in
magazines, but there is also
lots of good material, and it
is your duty to choose and
“filter” the bad stuff out. As
you become a more
interesting woman, this will
go far beyond improving your
dating life and will make you
much more attractive and
interesting to your friends,
and co-workers, and will
likely create new social and
professional opportunities for
you that you didn’t even
think existed and were
available to you.
5. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are an Ultra Feminist
While equality and equal
rights are great, more and
more women take the notion
of feminism way too far.
For some women showing
and proving to the world that
they can do and be anything
a guy can is their life’s
mission. Equally
opportunities for women is a
great concept without which
no society has the right to
call itself free and
civilized. However, when this
equality comes at the
expense of femininity and
elegance – women pay a high
price of becoming very
unattractive to the opposite
sex. It’s a fundamental law of
nature that masculine,
confident, attractive men are
attracted to the opposite –
feminine women – women
who possess a feminine
voice, walk, and manners.
Don’t take me wrong. I would
never suggest that a woman
should stay home and cook
and clean. This is not what it
is about.
A woman can be very
educated, successful and
independent and still
retain her femininity and be
proud of being a woman.
Stop hiding the fact that you
are different from guys. You
are and it’s good news –
good for you and for men.
There is a saying “Bitches get
corner office.” I seriously
doubt it. Part of being
professional and romantically
successful has always been
being a lady, and being a
lady and a “Dam” are
mutually exclusive.
6. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are a Victim of Your
Own Bad Dating Past
Many women have a bad
relationship with a guy who
is controlling and possessive
at least once in their lives.
Breaking up with such a guy
feels like a very liberating
experience – like putting
more air in your lungs, like
letting your tied wings go
free, if you will. A woman
who goes through such a bad
relationship in which she
submitted to the guy’s
controlling and possessive
nature, jumps into another
extreme with the other guys
that she meets later. She
makes it a point to show to
every guy she meets that she
is not going to “obey” him
and do what she wants. She
will do the opposite from
what the guys asks or
suggests just for the sake of
showing that no one can tell
her what to do, and that she
decides what she does for
herself. This is unfortunate
because it creates
unnecessary problems and
challenges in communication.
If you believe that you create
such challenges in your
interaction with men, you
should do your best to not let
your past negative experience
with a jealous guy affect your
present and future
interactions with men.
7. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are Not Great in Bed /
You Are a Mediocre
Sex Partner
Many women either ruin the
romantic tension and the
connection with the guy in
bed. Few women act in a way
that will make sleeping with
them a great, memorable
experience that the guy is
eager to repeat. Some of the
big turn-offs for guys are
women who are either too
quiet in bed (not making any
sounds that would
indicate their enjoyment and
would look like they are
bored), or those who talk too
much, or say something
inappropriate and irrelevant
at the very wrong time. Not
many women know what they
are doing with their hands
and their mouth when it
comes to the man’s body. If
a man had a mediocre
experience sleeping with you
for the first time, he is
unlikely to want to do that
again.
This might sound extreme,
but there is probably no
better way to learn how to be
a better sex partner than by
observation. Thus, you
should not be afraid to rent
Intimate or even quality
pornographic movies that will
inspire you and will give you
some great ideas on how to
make your sexual experience
more sensational and
satisfying to both you and
the guy. Make no mistake
about it – this kind of skill is
not common, and your guy,
especially if he has “been
around the block” will
appreciate it because he
knows that this is not
common. Sure, you might be
grossed out by some of the
things you are going to see in
these movies, but if you learn
a thing or two out of a movie
that will make your and your
potential or existing partner’s
sex life more exciting and
fulfilling, that movie was time
well spent.
8. Guys Lose Interest
In You Because You
Are Too Competitive
and “Fiesty”
It is very common for a
woman who had dated a
controlling, possessive,
jealous guy to try to “make
up” to herself for that time
that she was subjected to
such treatment, by jumping
into another extreme, and
challenging her next partner
for a reason or not reason
just for the sake of showing
to him over and over and he
cannot control her. She will
disagree on the place to eat,
go out at, travel to, and do
not because she doesn’t like
his idea, but because she
wants to demonstrate to him
that he cannot control her. A
strong, confident guy will be
turned-off and will lose
interest in such a woman
quickly because to him –
such an attitude is
incompatible with a very
notion of being feminine. If
you believe that you have
been trying to
overcompensate for the past
“subordination” in your
relationships with men by
being too independent and
too competitive, do yourself a
favor and don’t allow your
past haunt your present
future and don’t allow the
immaturity of your past
dating partners to negatively
affect your dating life today.
No one can guarantee to you
any kind of protection from
meeting and seeing guys who
will later lose interest in
you. However, by paying
attention to the above six
possible issues that you
might be having in your
interactions with guys, you
will dramatically improve the
chances of keeping any guy’s
interest and coming across
as a more attractive and
desirable woman.
9.Guys lose interest in you because
you are too materialistic
its no more news that we guys are
working so hard to get money
and our money shouldn't be spent
prodigally.
Majority of ladies out there are
too lazy to work and sweat for
money, but they are ready to drain
any guy that falls on their trap.Guys
want ladies who are economic and
ready to turn #5000 to #10000.
You want big things and want to live
the lifestyle latest babe are living?
go get a job and work for money.
When you sweat to raise your money,
I am sure you will not spend 100k on
Brazilian hair that will last you for just
2month.
No guy is ready for such ladies nowadays.
Shekina!!!
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